Monali's Mandate: Paths of Purpose & Peace

જ્યારે આપણે જન્મીએ છીએ, ત્યારે આપણે નિર્વિકાર આવીએ છીએ — શુદ્ધ, નિર્દોષ અને કુદરતી. બાળકની આંખો દરેક વસ્તુમાં અદ્ભુત જોયે છે, હૃદય ખુલ્લું હોય છે, વિશ્વાસથી ભરેલું, પ્રેમથી છલકાતું. બાળક કદી ન્યાય નથી કરતું, સ્પર્ધા નથી કરતું, કે નાટક નથી કરતું — તે માત્ર હોય છે . દરેક સ્મિત પર, દરેક નાના પ્રયાસ પર પ્રશંસા મળે છે. લોકો — માતા-પિતા, શિક્ષક, સગા, અંજાણાં — સૌના ચહેરા પર મમતા હોય છે. પ્રેમ, ઉત્સાહ અને સ્વીકાર મફતમાં મળે છે. તે વિશ્વ સુરક્ષિત લાગે છે, જ્યાં “તું જે છે તે જ પૂરતું છે.” પણ પછી ક્યાંક, ધીમે ધીમે, એ વિશ્વ બદલાઈ જાય છે... પ્રથમ આઘાત: નિર્દોષતાનો અંત જ્યારે કોઈ શાળામાં હસે, તુલના કરે, કે ઉપેક્ષા કરે — અંદર કંઈક તૂટી જાય છે. શાંત રીતે, પણ ઊંડે સુધી. અમેરિકન સાયકોલોજિકલ એસોસિએશન (2019) ના એક અભ્યાસ મુજબ, બાળક સાત વર્ષની ઉંમરે જ પોતાના પર સમાજના અભિપ્રાયની અસર અનુભવવા લાગે છે. અગાઉ જે આનંદ “હોય” માં હતો, તે હવે “બનવું” માં ફેરવાઈ જાય છે. અહીંથી આપણે શીખીએ છીએ કે સ્વીકાર મેળવવા માટે આપણને પોતાની જાતને બદલવી પડશે. કિશોરાવસ્થા: સ્પર્ધાની ભ્રમના ભવરમાં ટીનેજ વયે આપણે ...

When we are born, we come into the world untouched—pure, radiant, and unfiltered. Our eyes see everything as wonder; our hearts are open, trusting, and full of love. A child doesn’t judge, doesn’t compete, doesn’t wear masks. A child simply is . Every smile, every small achievement, every step is met with applause. People around us—parents, teachers, relatives, even strangers—look at us with warmth. Their eyes soften, their tone sweetens. Love, affection, and appreciation are given freely. We grow in an environment that feels safe, where being “ourselves” is enough. But somewhere along the way, that world changes. The First Wound: The End of Innocence The first time someone laughs at us in school, the first time we are compared, ignored, or rejected—something inside us breaks quietly. It’s not dramatic, but it’s deep. Psychologists call this the “first social trauma” —the moment a child realizes that love is no longer unconditional. A 2019 study by the American Psychological Associatio...

  In today’s digital world, it has become increasingly common to see people acting as critics — not in the sense of professional reviewers, but as bystanders who constantly judge, comment, and complain without taking action. Be it in the office, on social media, or in everyday conversations — people seem to have plenty of opinions on what’s not right, what could have been better, or what someone else should have done differently. And yet, many of these same people echo the same line: “I don’t have time.” But is time really the issue? Or is it where we’re investing it? 🔍 Let’s Look at the Facts: 🌍 The average person spends 6+ hours daily on screens. 📱 Over 2.5 hours are spent on social media (Statista, 2024). 😞 71% of global employees report being disengaged at work (Gallup, 2023). 📺 In India, the average adult spends 3–4 hours daily on TV or mobile usage (NSSO, 2023). We’re not short on time. We’re short on purposeful engagement. 💭 The Impact of Passive Criticism 🔸 Mental He...

  “Why am I never enough?” “Why do I feel guilty even when I’m doing everything?” “Why does love feel like a burden?” These are not just questions. These are inherited wounds. Passed silently, generation to generation—from mothers to daughters, from mothers-in-law to daughters-in-law, especially in India, where generations of women carry unspoken pain like family jewels, wrapped in silence and shame. Let’s understand why this happens , how it looks , and most importantly,  how we can break this cycle and find peace. 🌑 The Generational Cycle of Trauma: How It Begins Trauma doesn’t always come from big, loud events. Sometimes, it comes from small, daily cuts—unfulfilled dreams, suppressed voices, broken boundaries, emotional neglect, and invisible expectations. In many Indian households, women are taught to adjust , sacrifice , endure , and serve others first . These values become part of survival. But they also become chains. Your grandmother might have stayed silent ...

A Story Every Parent and Teacher Must Read — Inspired by the POCSO Act, 2012 (Story based on a true story, name and place changed to keep privacy as per the law) 🌙 The Night That Changed Everything Every Diwali, families gather, lights glow, and joy fills homes across India. But for one little boy from Hingoli, Maharashtra , the word Diwali brings back fear, not light. He was eight years old — quiet, kind, and full of curiosity. His small town home buzzed with relatives, cousins, and laughter that festive week.Among them was his mama — a man he loved and trusted, the one who used to lift him on his shoulders and bring him sweets. That night, when fireworks faded and everyone slept, the child woke up to a nightmare. His mama entered the room, sat beside him, and told him to stay quiet. He said, “This is our little secret.” And the secret became a wound that no light could heal. Over the next few months, the abuse repeated. Sometimes that man even brought friends. The boy ...

These days, everywhere we turn, people are talking about mental wellness . It’s on social media, in workplaces, in everyday conversations. And yes, it feels good that the subject is no longer hidden in silence. But if we pause for a moment, a deeper question arises: are we really talking about the roots of our struggles, or are we just decorating the surface with pretty words like “self-care” and “positive vibes only”? Because when we look around, the world still feels heavy. Families are breaking under pressure. Small arguments at home turn into battles of ego. Society is shaken every day by crimes — rapes, honor killings, revenge attacks, violence against women. People are losing loved ones to anger, to ego, to cycles of pain that never seem to end. These wounds are not new; they have existed for generations. The difference is that now, because of the internet, we see them instantly. Every fight, every crime, every tragedy goes viral within minutes. Positivity, on the other hand, ...

This article uses anonymized, composite stories (names and locations changed to protect privacy). The personal stories reflect real patterns reported across India; the statistics below are from national and international research and official reports. Write your view and appreciation on monalisuthar1210@gmail.com Opening: a world where everything is “available” — including our pain One evening, a 45-year-old woman (wife of a government official) sat in a well-furnished home and cried alone. Outside, the house looked fine; inside, she felt invisible, hollowed out by years of emotional loneliness and impossible standards to “perform” as a perfect wife and mother. On another day, an 18-year-old boy failed a crucial entrance exam. The comments he saw online told him he had “failed at life.” Within a few weeks his mood had collapsed and he could not ask for help. A 37-year-old woman from a rural village swallowed poison after years of domestic fights and emotional torture; in her village th...